I’ve been talking to this Scorpio guy for 5 months. At the beginning he showed a strong interest. As time went on I began to show a strong interest in him. Then, that’s when he started to pull away. Just recently he hit me with the “let’s just remain friends.” He stated that he can’t give me what I want — that is, a relationship — and he’s not ready to make that type of commitment.
I asked him was he seeing someone else. He said he is interested in dating other people. So with relief, I said “Ok that’s fine. He replied, “So you’re OK with that???” I said, “Yes, I don’t have a choice but to be Ok, I can’t make u like me.” “I do like u!”he said. “So, what’s the problem, was it the sex???”, I asked. He said, “No, and to be honest you were the best I ever had!”
So then I asked, “So, u don’t like hanging with me??” He responded, “Yes I do like being with u.” I told him to not give his heart away to anyone else, and he said I don’t have to worry about that. Then, he asked me not to have sex with anyone else! That we will continue to see each other, but we can date other people.
Please help, I’m totally confused with this one – and he calls me crazy! LOL SMH my birthday is June 27 and his is November 6. We aren’t talking right now bcuz the next day he texted me “Hey, just thinking about u,” That night I see him out with a girl, but he did speak to me and bought me a drink and danced with me.
The following night I see him out with a different girl, and he kisses me (with tongue) lol and buys me a drink. I asked him to walk me to my car and as we were leaving out, his date calls him over and he never returned to me. I can see in his face that he was irritated by her or something she said. Well anyway I text him that night telling him I don’t compete with no-one b!&* and eff him and his friendship. He told me he doesn’t owe me anything and called me crazy. I replied and apologize saying I could have used a better choice of words, and I asked him why was he running from me, running from us. He never responded and this was over a week ago. I miss him so much
Dear Sweet, Naive Nicole:
Stop missing him — and you better not be saving yourself for him as he requested. You are being used — royally. There’s just no other way to say it.
I like the Cancer woman-Scorpio man dynamic, but he’s in player mode, apparently juggling at least three women, if not more.
As a Cancer woman you are too sensitive to even try to tangle with this disrespectful Casanova. Did he really try to French kiss you while he was out with other woman. Wow — he’s really smooth, bold and way too good at the game of manipulation to be straightened out by you. Some woman might set him on the path to loyalty and monogamy, but it will be someone with as much guile and manipulative psychology as he has.
Some Scorpios can handle receiving the intense interest they give out — particularly when they are mature and genuinely want a relationship. However, because many Scorpios love the chase and often want to be the only intense person in a bond, showing extreme interest can backfire. If Scorpios know they have you hooked, often they’ll move on, hunting their next prey. He was honest with you when he said he wasn’t ready for the type of commitment a Cancer girl needs.
Telling him that you were “OK” with him seeing other people further lowered your stock and value in his eyes. That’s why he replied “You’re OK with that?” Scorpios believe in lovers as territory; they value jealousy. Wanting someone to be yours exclusively is a sign of self-respect. For you not to care or be jealous that he’s showing interest in someone else is a flaw in his eyes and makes it clear that he can trifle with you because you won’t demand limits.
For you to ask him to not give his heart away after he has told you he will see other people and not commit to you was an additional faux pas. Don’t beat yourself up about it, but if you plan to date a Scorpio again, set limits for what you will and will not allow. Scorpios do not like malleable people who will bend to every wish and let them get away with relationship violations. Stand up for yourself! Defend your dignity! I mean you had sex with this person. IF I were you, I would have one last conversation with this boy: tell him you expected more of him and that you’re not impressed with his need to disrespect women. Tell him you will not wait for him and that you will indeed have sex with someone else: a real man who respects you and knows how to commit to you.
If in fact the sex with you was “the best” he’s had as he claims, that will rattle him to the core. Otherwise, that “best” comment was simply to reel you in and keep you a pawn in the game — just like those “thinking about you” texts.
I have to say you were on the right track when you texted him that you don’t compete. The profanity was a nice touch, because Scorpios appreciate the drama and emotion of the profane. :-) However, girl, you retreated too quickly. You should have stood your ground and told him HE was the crazy one. Instead, you apologized.
I know you miss him, but right now he’s not yours. If you want to make him yours, arrange to be seen out and in his habitat (preferably with male companionship) and completely ignore him. If he decides to pursue you again, never compromise your dignity or apologize for standing up for yourself.
– Synthia Rose, ScorpioLandREAD MORE about Scorpio & Cancer compatibility